A few months ago one of my phones that I’ve been using since many moons ago decided to start giving me a hard time.
The sensible thing I should’ve done was to move on to my other more advanced phone, but instead I too found myself disoriented by the idea of being unable to use the phone that I’d grown so fond of.
Much to everyone’s frustration, instead of doing that very logical thing of using my newer phone, my communication was stilted for about a day and a half. That should’ve been enough to bother me and call it quits right? Well… not really.
Mostly because I’m not big on being on my phone anyway, it takes me 3-7 business days to reply to messages on socials, and half the time when I am on my phone I’m usually just going through my pictures.
Those of you who’ve been journeying with me on this blog know that I love pictures, I believe that photos are a return ticket to memories otherwise gone. So if anything I’m usually doing picture audits religiously most of the time.
What I can give myself credit for, is that I really am the editor of my life. I’m very big on curating the type of life that when I look back on, looks well for my soul, mind and heart.
Though it was comments made by two people who honestly have no business still having residency in my life about my phone, that inspired this post.
The comments even though said in isolation went something along the lines of; “you have a hard time of letting go of things that don’t work.” Firstly sir/mam I should’ve let go of you? A long time ago at that. Though we aren’t here for that.
What we’re here for is it that those comments triggered a thought in me. I know, there had to be some truth to it for it to have. And yes, to some degree there was, but like I said those were the last two people to have any say, though nonetheless they did.
Their comments sparked the thought of perhaps we struggle to let go of things that aren’t working because we operate from a place of lack.
We hold on tight to people and things that aren’t for us , because it seems better to have or be with something/someone then to have nothing at all. Much like the common phrase; “ better the devil that you know then the one you don’t know.”
Now take it from someone whose gone out of her way to overly familiarise themselves with her devils, then just leaving them alone. Sometimes it really is better the devil you don’t know.
We often cling to what’s in front of us from fear of the unknown when there is the likelihood of so much more on the other side.
I know this post sounds like it’s centred around the idea of letting things go. Though that thought holds true, this post is about not giving up. That is actually the meaning of the title of this piece.
To not give up on yourself in your journey to let go of the things that do not serve you in order to align yourself with those that do. And to not be afraid of what is to come on the other side of letting go.
As I said, it’s far easier to stay in said situations, then to embark on trying something new. It’s a lot harder to break patterns, bonds, and channels then it is to continue with them. That is why I encourage you to not give up and keep trying.
At least I too have made do with the two people who inspired this piece. Well one of them partially, but the boundaries have certainly been put in place. As for the phone? I’m still working on that.
Hey, don’t side eye me. I’m not the folk that are willing to give (even though I know many would beg to differ) a particular thing or person endless chances while I discard of others easily. If anything I give everything and everyone too many chances and suffer the brunt of it, hence we find ourselves here.
So as we embark on the new year, don’t you love the sound of that? There’s a newness to it, a fresh and sacred aura that allows you to begin again. This time being kind and gentle with ourselves, not quick to giving up.
Knowing that unlearning takes time, but there is a silver lining to it too. You learn what to tolerate and what not to, who to keep close and who to keep at bay. You learn that the more you keep up with something, the worse it will get. You learn to forgive others and yourself, and mostly importantly you learn to let go.
The transition of leaving things might not be easy, it also most certainly will not always be pretty but we can be rest assured that it will be worth it.
So I urge you to not give up on yourself as you journey through this life, and to wish that you may always be surrounded by love, light and lots of luck as you come into being.
Maz_Dizzle
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